False Intimacy Fallout

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Childhood experiences, both positive and negative, have a tremendous impact on lifelong health. Much of the foundational research in this area has been referred to as Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs). Adverse childhood experiences increase the chance of social risk factors, mental health issues, substance abuse, intimate partner violence, and adult adoption of risky adult behaviors. Adverse experiences and other trauma in childhood, however, do not dictate the future of the child. Children are resilient, and can thrive despite trauma if they form healthy adult attachment relationships (especially with parents and caregivers).

Parents who have experienced ACEs in their early years may respond poorly to their children. It can affect parenting in a negative way and perpetuate exposure to ACEs across generations. But the cycle can be broken. Parents can learn how to manage their emotions and chronic stress through workshops and therapy.

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Alicia La Hoz

Dr. Alicia La Hoz
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Omar Ramos

Omar Ramos
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Family Bridges

Veronica Avila
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Jonathan Alarcon

Jonathan Alarcon
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Find out what your ACE’s Score is – and learn what it does and doesn’t mean

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The Invisible String

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Would you like your child to do well in school and in life?  Out of all of the parenting advice that you can receive, having a strong relationship with your child is the most important. Your relationship with your children impacts their future mental, physical, social and emotional health.  The quality of your relationship with your child is called attachment. When your child feels secure, understood and calm, they will have the best foundation for life. This feeling results in eagerness to learn, healthy self-awareness and empathy. This doesn’t mean you have to be a perfect parent, it means you should be warm, responsive and nurturing.

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Alicia La Hoz

Dr. Alicia La Hoz
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Omar Ramos

Omar Ramos
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Family Bridges

Veronica Avila
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Jeanette Avila

Janette Avila
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  • Learn about why attachment matters and how to develop secure attachments with your children.
  • Learn about the obstacles that prevent children from developing secure attachments.

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The Worth of Self Worth

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Imagine the type of adult your child would turn out to be if every day you said to them something along the lines of, “you are good, courageous, wise, compassionate, peaceful, and kind,” instead of things like, “you look so pretty, I like your dress, your shoes are so cool, I hope you had fun today.”  Whether it’s derogatory remarks, compliments or cheers for work well done, our words are etched in the fiber of our children’s souls. A child’s sense of value and worth is tied to the blessings or the curses we pour into them. If your child is like a sculpture, and your words are like a chisel, think about how your words are shaping your child’s identity and self-worth. Would you like them to value themselves based on their looks and what they possess? Or would you want them to value their strong character traits? Speak words that bless your children, strengthen them, and reinforce their positive attributes.

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Alicia La Hoz

Dr. Alicia La Hoz
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Omar Ramos

Omar Ramos
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Family Bridges

Veronica Avila
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Damaris Bran

Damaris Bran
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This Week's Action

  • Think of at least five words that describe that type of character that you would like your child to have as an adult.
  • Find opportunities during the day to speak these words into your children’s lives. For example, “you showed courage today when even though you were scared, you still stood in front of class delivered your presentation.
  • The following tools can help you along the way: Your Parents and Worth

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Mini Me

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What do you place the most value on in your own everyday life? What you do reflects what you value. Often, we get caught up in the day-to-day hustle and focus our attention on things that are not really important in the grand scheme of things. We end up living outside of what our values are.  This week take an inventory of your values, what is really important to you, and then evaluate how much of your time is given to fostering the values you uphold.

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Alicia La Hoz

Dr. Alicia La Hoz
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Omar Ramos

Omar Ramos
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Veronica Avila
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Robert Salazar

Robert Salazar
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  • Identify the top 3 values you have and that you would like to pass on to your children.
  • Assess how much time you dedicate to fostering these values.
  • Check out the Urgent vs. Priority worksheet.

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Please Silence Your Cell Phone

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Is your smartphone’s screen kidnapping your time? Although technology gives us a lot of conveniences and comfort, if we don’t keep it in check, it can create a lot of relationship problems. Our screens can be the barrier keeping us from enjoying each other’s presence, listening to each other, and connecting. This week, we encourage you to think about some ground rules that you can establish to make sure that technology doesn’t take over your life all together.

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Alicia La Hoz

Dr. Alicia La Hoz
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Omar Ramos

Omar Ramos
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Family Bridges

Veronica Avila
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Isabel Miranda

Isabel Miranda
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This Week's Action

  • Establish technology rules that your whole family can live by.
  • Explore apps that help parents and children monitor how much time is spent on technology.
  • Check the parenting controls on your devices.

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Parenting: Today & Yesterday

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Parenting styles are influenced by the culture around us. Today’s parents adjust according to the needs of each child, and there is a focus on doing what is best for each child. In an effort to help their kids be successful, though, some parents may err on the side of over-scheduling them. This creates a lot of stress for both the kids and the parents. The thing to work towards is balance. Yes, provide nurturing opportunities for children to help them grow, but while you do that make sure to schedule self-care for yourself as well so the stressors of life won’t wear you out. The bottom line is that parents need to schedule time to nurture their spirit and well-being. As a parent, when you work towards enjoying a healthier balanced life, you will manage stress better, and ultimately that will help you parent from a better place.

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Alicia La Hoz

Dr. Alicia La Hoz
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Omar Ramos

Omar Ramos
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Veronica Avila
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Bill Ferrell

Bill Ferrell
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This Week's Action

Work on Self Care

  • Take out a journal and write out what your best day would look like. Imagine what an ideal day would look like from morning to night. Include all of the details you can image.
  • Go ahead and take out your calendar, and schedule a day where you commit to live out your ideal day.

Surround Yourself with a Supportive Network

  • Join a parenting workshop in your community. Listening to other parents’ challenges and receiving some helpful tips from them can be of great help. Check out Family Bridges’ website calendar for a workshop near you.
  • Can’t find a time or a place that is convenient for you? Go ahead and rally your friends or neighbors and work through this parenting program with others.

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