The Struggle is Real

The Struggle is Real

Modern Parenting

The Struggle is Real is a parenting journey designed to give you the tools you need to raise extraordinary children in a 21st-century world. Think of these resources as a guide for navigating through your children’s emotions and behaviors. You’ll learn how to turn the struggle into a success. You and your children will be all the better for it!

The Struggle is Real - Recovering From Parenting Mistakes

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Recovering from Parenting Mistakes

Parenting isn’t an exact science. Sometimes we shine and sometimes not so much. It’s ok. Join our panel discussion this week with James Breakwell a.k.a. Exploding Unicorn, for tips on how to recover from those parenting mistakes.

Podcasts

Follow Their Passion

It is difficult to do something if our heart isn’t in it. Once our passion is activated, we find value in experiences and enjoy them thoroughly. Adolescent years are the perfect training ground to discover what a child’s passions may be.

Tell A Good Story

When a child’s curiosity is cultivated, they thrive. Don’t undermine a child’s capacity to understand – often when they understand the reason behind something, they will happily comply. A story can be a very powerful way to illuminate a reason behind something, while piquing a child’s curiosity, and even stimulating areas of their brain. Stories are more memorable and can be recalled more easily than information. In order for this to work, your story must contain interesting details & a plot, and you must be emotionally connected to it.

Appeal To Their Progress

Parents appeal to the progress of your children. Highlight the progress the child is making as a motivator to grow, and to demonstrate perseverance, patience, diligence, and compassion, i.e. character development. Focus on the accomplishments, instead of what’s wrong, and your tone will change from bitter to encouraging.

Go For Their Heart

You cannot appeal to a child’s logic when they are overly emotional. You cannot change another’s heart, but you can control your own thoughts and behavior.

To Bribe Or Not to Bribe

Rewards just motivate people to get rewards. Bribing needs to escalate to maintain efficacy and will produce an attitude of entitlement. External motivation isn’t entirely bad, but children should be weened off of it once they adopt the desired trait/s.

The Hamburger

When we employ discipline tactics that counter our children’s motivation and passion, it can lead to frustration and exhaustion. When asking our children to do something, there are three questions to answer. Think of these questions like a hamburger. Top bun … meat … and bottom bun.

False Intimacy Fallout

Are you rejecting your kids by disregarding or ignoring them? Kids grow fast, if you don’t spend time with them now, it may be too late later. Tune in for more.

The Invisible String

Being able to develop a strong bond with your child is important. The sooner you do, the better it is for their well being. The question is how do you do it? Dr. La Hoz explains that it’s actually pretty simple – all you have to do is be present in the life of your child.

The Worth of Self Worth

Often times the values we have don’t necessarily show in our everyday actions. This can make teaching and passing down values to our children very difficult. As parents, we may want kids to “do as I say, not as I do” and that most definitely does not work. Parents: How are your actions shaping the life of your children?

Mini Me

Children do what parents do, not necessarily what parents tell them to do. How are your actions shaping the life of your children? Tune in to this podcast to learn more.

Please Silence Your Cell Phone

Is your smartphone’s screen kidnapping your time? Although technology gives us a lot of conveniences and comfort, if we don’t keep it in check, it can create a lot of relationship problems.

Parenting: Today & Yesterday

Parenting styles are influenced by the culture around us. Today’s parents adjust according to the needs of each child, and there is a focus on doing what is best for each child. In an effort to help their kids be successful, though, some parents may err on the side of over-scheduling them.

Single Parenting

Boundaries within the family are important. Children will chip away at your privacy and will invade all of your space, time and energy if you let them. You have to work at protecting your privacy. This means protecting your couple time by having regular date nights.

Setting Boundaries

Boundaries within the family are important. Children will chip away at your privacy and will invade all of your space, time and energy if you let them. You have to work at protecting your privacy. This means protecting your couple time by having regular date nights.

Spend Time Wisely

As parents, we want the best for our children. Which means we spend and focus most of our time on them. The problem is that focusing so much on our children distracts us from fostering a relationship with our spouse. And if our relationship with our spouse suffers, in the end, our children suffer because the quality of the couple’s relationship directly impacts the children.

Mom Wow – Mother’s Day Special

“Mothers and their children are in a category all on their own. There’s no bond so strong in the entire world. No love so instantaneous and forgiving.” Tune in to this week’s special Mother’s Day podcast edition where we talk about how we are like our moms and how they put the WOW in MOM.

Parent Burnout

When spouses are not getting their love needs met by each other, partly because they’re attending to the demands of their children, each partner will often look elsewhere to have their relationship needs met. Tune in to get insight and tips on small things you can do as a couple to keep the spark alive.

The Magic of Childhood

Childhood is inherently magical, even when it’s not perfect. How much fairy dust do we need to sprinkle on our children to make it more magical? Tune in to find out…

Raising the Compassionate Child

Studies on self-esteem have found that increased self-esteem is related to poorer performance on tasks, more relationship problems, more engagement in risky behaviors, and more aggressive and violent behavior. Instead of focusing on self-esteem, as parents we are challenged to raise children who have self-compassion.

Prisoners in Plain Sight – Human Trafficking

Human trafficking is a form of modern slavery. And yes, it’s happening here, down the street, around the corner, in your neighborhood, in the United States – in alarming numbers. Join us for an eye-opening conversation about how your kids might be in danger of being sucked in and trapped in this multi-billion dollar business.

Let Go and Let God

Parents today are often criticized for raising a generation of children who struggle to do things on their own, who return home from college incapable of earning a living or making decisions. The trouble with hovering excessively over children is that it stifles their potential for growing into confident adults who can step out into an unknown world and face the consequences of their decisions responsibly.

Love or Fear: Raising confident children

When nurturing your child’s spiritual growth, be mindful to not fall into a rigid trap where religion is shoved down their throats like a pill they need to swallow. Instead, live a life of faith and practice the spiritual disciplines.

Stay Humble: Sometimes you need to ask your kids for forgiveness

Parenting can be a humbling experience in many respects. At times, you may lash out at your children when they frustrate your goals. When this happens, and you seek forgiveness from your children, this exercise in humility is a growing experience for you and for them. Stay humble and admit when you are wrong.

The Defiant Child

Children have different temperaments, which influences how their parents respond to them. A child with an easy temperament who is complacent by nature tends to receive more praise from their parents, teachers and caregivers. A child who has difficult temperament and who needs repeated redirection and discipline can wear down those who take care of them.

Father’s Day Special

Everyone has been influenced by their fathers – and whether our experience was happy, painful, or tragic, we can’t deny the impact that they have had on our lives. Our guests for this special discuss memories they have with their fathers, lessons that they learned, and what their relationship with their father is like today.

Self-Love vs. Self-Hatred: Helping kids find joy and contentment

Be caring, compassionate and mindful with your children and they will most likely emulate that with others. Tune in to this week’s podcast and get tips on how you can expose your children to service and giving to others so they can find the joy of giving and the contentment of having a life that is purpose-driven.

Raising the Brainy Child

Sometimes kids just don’t know what they’re feeling. Other times, they don’t know how to deal with their emotions. In this podcast, our panel provides us with some helpful tips on how to help kids understand, express and deal with their feelings.

Childhood Stress: It’s a Thing

Did you know that children may start to experience stress as early as 3-years old? Your child may not be learning or growing as he/she should be because of it. Find out more on this week’s podcast.

Feel This Feel That: Helping your kids understand their emotions

Sometimes kids just don’t know what they’re feeling. Other times, they don’t know how to deal with their emotions. In this podcast, our panel provides us with some helpful tips on how to help kids understand, express and deal with their feelings.

Champion Tribes: Father & Son Journey

Divorce is a stressful and emotional experience for everyone involved. And when children are involved, it can often leave them feeling as though their whole world has been turned upside down. The transition can be a hard and trying, but you can take steps to reduce your child’s pain by making their well-being your top priority.

Talking to Children About Divorce

Divorce is a stressful and emotional experience for everyone involved. And when children are involved, it can often leave them feeling as though their whole world has been turned upside down. The transition can be a hard and trying, but you can take steps to reduce your child’s pain by making their well-being your top priority.

Winning the Social Media Game: Helping your Child Navigate Social Media Positively

Social media is here to stay. How can you as a parent teach your kids to use social media wisely? Focus on the do’s as opposed to the don’ts. Tune in to The Struggle is Real parenting podcast where our panel shares practical insights and tips on helping your children navigate social media positively.

The Role of Play

Parenting is a hard, but it doesn’t always have to be. We’ve got to relax a little and play, just like James Breakwell’s family does as they prepare for the zombie apocalypse. Tune in to The Struggle is Real, to get tips straight from James on how to survive the apocalypse so you can continue having fun with your kids.

Raising Future Spouses & Parents

As a parent, have you ever thought that you aren’t just raising your own children, but you are also raising someone else’s future spouse, life partner and parent? Thinking about the responsibility to pass on the best human possible brings a whole new awareness and perspective on what we may choose to teach and, most importantly, model to your children.

Preparing them for Puppy Love

The current cultural trend in America is for children to begin dating at earlier and earlier ages. This means that now, perhaps more than ever, it is crucial for parents to begin teaching their children about relationships sooner rather than later.

Marriage or Carriage: Talking to your kids about marriage & education

The “success sequence,” is the research supported notion that people who get an education, then a job, then get married and, lastly, have children are more likely to experience financial prosperity in the future. How do you talk to your kids about following the success sequence?

Identifying Abuse: The Warning Signs

Domestic violence can be seen everywhere. It doesn’t discriminate against race, gender, religion or economic status. It entails more than just physical violence and includes any type of psychological, emotional, or spiritual maltreatment based on the abuser’s desire to exercise power and control over his or her victim.

Unpacking the Unmentionables: Talking to your kids about drugs, sex & porn

Talking to your kids about drugs, sex and porn can be tough – but it’s necessary. Tune in to get tips on how to start and have the conversation.

Is it True Love?: Talking to your kids about healthy relationships

The chemical changes that take place during periods of infatuation can cloud judgement and blur the lines between true commitment and attraction. In a truly committed relationship, both parties desire a future together and are willing to make the sacrifices necessary for that to happen.

Guard Your Child’s Heart: Setting boundaries

When you guard your child’s heart, you set up healthy boundaries in the home that prevent harmful societal “toxins” from entering their lives. Boundaries should also prevent the private parts of their lives from being broadcast before the world.

Choosing Gratitude: A Guide to Choosing to be Grateful with your Children

Gratitude is a daily choice, plain and simple. No matter your life or your circumstances you can always find something to be angry about, and you can always find something to be grateful for. Tune in for tips on how you can practice gratitude with your children.

Finding Forgiveness

Forgiving others is always hard to do when you are still feeling hurt. It takes courage to decide to forgive someone. Forgiving someone shows strength of character, not weakness. Tune in for insights on how to make decisions when judgements may be clouded by anger.

Prizing Generosity: How to Practice and Inspire Generosity

“It’s better to give than to receive” is more than an inspiring quote. It’s a truth that can add value and happiness to your life and that of your children. Tune in for tips and insights on how to inspire generosity.

Modeling Empathy: A Conversation About Teaching & Modeling Empathy to Children

Talking to your kids about poverty and helping others is one thing. Showing them by volunteering, being kind to others and being accepting of other’s differences – that’s a much more powerful teaching tool. Tune in to this week’s podcast to hear first hand how empathy can make a huge difference in your life and the life of your children.

Cooking up Nutrition for the Whole Family

Good nutrition is essential to good health. Right from the start, nutrition shapes brain development, metabolism, and overall health. Tune in to get some tips on how to make smart food choices and on how to pass on good nutrition to your kids.

Raising Differently Wired Children

In this podcast we talk with Debbie Reber from TILT Parenting, where she shares ideas for how parents raising both differently-wired and neurotypical kids can find joy, peace, and possibility in their experience right now. Tune in for more.

How to Stop a Bully

Sometimes the best way to deal with a bully, is to kill them with kindness. Tune into this week’s episode of The Struggle is Real parenting podcast for insights on how to help your children (and maybe even yourself) deal with the bullies in their life.

Letting them Fail, Helping them Win

Sometimes your role as a parent is to lift your child up when they’re struggling, and sometimes it’s to raise the bar a little higher and make them stretch. Tune in to learn how to strike a balance.

If You Love Them, Let Them Go

One of your most important goals as a parent is to raise children who become independent and self-reliant people. Tune in to this week’s podcast for insights on how to let go of your fears and give your kids more freedom to be independent.

Play by Play of a Child’s Brain

Young children are deeply affected by their early experiences. So how do these experiences actually affect the way children’s brains become “wired,” building the architecture of the brain? Tune into this episode for more.

Stepping Inside the Troubled Mind

Mental health is a big deal. It plays a huge role in our kid’s ability to succeed in school, at work and in society. How can we help our kids through anxiety, depression and phobias and how can we set goals to improve mental health? Tune in to learn more.

Learning to Learn

There are many different learning styles. To foster greater learning, we should figure out how our children naturally learn & facilitate those types of activities. Tune in to this week’s podcast, our special guests are our very own kids!

Where are you Guiding your Children?

Parenting is no easy job. For the first 18-ish years of their life, your job is to teach and guide them. How do you guide your children to make good decisions and give them tools that stay with them for a lifetime? Tune in for more.

Braving Tough Love

One of our primary duties as parents is to protect our children from harm. However, that doesn’t mean we need to protect them from all momentary discomfort. Sometimes those moments of disappointment or frustration are necessary to drive home important lessons. Tune in for more.

Hands-off Discipline

One of the biggest roles of a parent is to teach children what is and what is not appropriate or acceptable behavior. At times, that means praising good behavior, other times that’s correcting bad behavior. Overall, the goal is to guide our children in the right direction.

How Safe is Too Safe?

Lying is a frustrating challenge for parents, but fortunately, it’s one that can be addressed and fixed. Tune in to get tips on how you can encourage your children to tell the truth.

Date Night

If you want to keep your marriage alive, you must make date night a priority. Plus, having a strong marriage shows your kids that a healthy marriage and relationship are important. Tune in for more.

Raising a Reader

Research shows that reading to children and discussing the book as you read is the single best way to increase your child’s IQ and instill a love of reading. Tune in to this week’s episode to learn some tips on how you can inspire a lasting love of reading in your children.

Spanking: The Last Resort

Lying is a frustrating challenge for parents, but fortunately, it’s one that can be addressed and fixed. Tune in to get tips on how you can encourage your children to tell the truth.

Limiting Lies, Prizing Truth: Encouraging Children to Tell the Truth

Lying is a frustrating challenge for parents, but fortunately, it’s one that can be addressed and fixed. Tune in to get tips on how you can encourage your children to tell the truth.

Establishing Rules, Avoiding Drama

In this podcast we talk with Debbie Reber from TILT Parenting, where she shares ideas for how parents raising both differently-wired and neurotypical kids can find joy, peace, and possibility in their experience right now. Tune in for more.

Character on Display feat. Andre Bouey

Teens spend an average of 9 hours a day using technology, and a big chunk of that time is spent on social media. In this episode, Dr. Susy Francis Best and Andre Bouey shed some light on how to help your kids balance the use of social media, how to spot the warning signs and how to keep technology from taking over their life.

Inappropriate Texting feat. Dr. Yanina Gomez

The average teen sends over 3,000 texts per month. It’s important for parents to set texting guidelines for the family. Tune in for a few tips on how to have open conversations with your kids on texting, sexting and technology.

Speaking Their Love Language feat. Bill Ferrell

Children express and receive love in different ways. Knowing their love language will not only have a profound impact on your relationship and connection, but will also has help them feel unconditionally loved, accepted, heard and understood.

Teaching Kids Manners feat. Mike Oquendo

Our kids watch every move we make. They pick up our good habits and our bad habits. So how do we teach our kids manners? You guessed it. Tune in to this week’s episode, featuring Mike Oquendo, for more.

Recovering from Parenting Mistakes feat. James Breakwell

Are you teaching your kids to have healthy boundaries? Children, just like adults, need to learn to set boundaries for themselves and respect those of others. Join the discussion this week, featuring Dr. Francis Best, to gain insights and practical tips on how to help your kids develop this important life skill.

Teaching Your Children Personal Boundaries feat. Dr. Susanne Francis Best

Are you teaching your kids to have healthy boundaries? Children, just like adults, need to learn to set boundaries for themselves and respect those of others. Join the discussion this week, featuring Dr. Francis Best, to gain insights and practical tips on how to help your kids develop this important life skill.

Building a Vocabulary feat. Principal Estuardo Mazin

Words have value. In this podcast, our panel discusses how to raise children to communicate with clarity and wisdom, and on how to use their words for good.

Balancing School & Extracurricular Activities feat. Ruby Salazar

Balancing school and extracurricular activities can be a headache for you and stressful for your child. How can you raise well-balanced kids without losing your mind? Tune into this week’s episode of The Struggle is Real, featuring Ruby Salazar, for insights on how to strike a healthy balance.

They Grow Up So Fast feat. Dr. Yanina Gomez

Transitions are part of life, but we all know the struggle can get real when kids hit the tween years. Middle School is a place where kids will face many challenges. Things will get tougher academically, socially, mentally and emotionally. How do we prepare our kids for that? How do we prepare ourselves for the roller coaster of emotions that will eventually come with it? Tune into this week’s episode of The Struggle is Real and join the conversation.

Developing Your Character feat. Kristen Dalton

Students are incredibly self-conscious during their high school years. They worry about their reputations a lot and can change feelings and appearance from week to week. How can we keep up with our children during this time of change, and soothe their insecurities? This week our panel is joined by Kristen Dalton, former Miss USA, to answer that very question. Join the discussion.

Building a Reasonable Skepticism feat. Jeff Wright

How do we teach kids about creating healthy priorities and how to learn to live with decisions – bad or good? Tune in to this episode of The Struggle is Real where our panel discusses making real change, setting priorities and dealing with fear of failure.

Flying Solo, What to Do After the Nest feat. Christine Gonzales

While college freshmen can’t wait to get on campus, meet new people and live independently; their parents might not feel the same excitement. You may still want to be involved and play an active role in the life of your college student. You can still do so all while allowing your child to be independent. Tune in for more.

Allowing Your Child to Become an Adult feat. Dr. Gihane Jeremie-Brink

Adulting. It happens to us all. How can you take a step back and help your child become a successful adult? Tune in to this week’s podcast for more.

Tidy Up, Down & Around feat. Kristyn Ivey

Spark joy by decluttering your home and life. Join our panel, featuring Kristyn Ivey from For the Love of Tidy, to get tips on how you can declutter your home and on how to get your kids to follow along.

School’s Out feat. Audrey Monke

The dog days of summer are here! And without school to occupy them (and tire them out) during the day, kids may need new activities to last all summer long to keep them busy. Tune in to find out things you whole family can do together to enjoy the sunshine and make the most of this summer.

Money Talks feat. Anthony ONeal

When is the best time to talk to your kids about money? RIGHT NOW! Your kids will learn about money from someone. Don’t let it be from an out-of-control celebrity on social media. You have the opportunity to be the positive example in their lives and the guiding voice they can trust.

18-Year Olds: The Homestretch feat. Ana Morante

Watching a child transform into an adult can be a lot to handle. And although most 18-year olds exhibit a lot of maturity, they still require a fair amount of guidance. How do you keep your status as parent and authority figure while allowing your children to have their own autonomy and maturity? Tune in to this episode for more.

Dads for the Win feat. Patrick Patterson

From protecting their children to teaching them life skills, fathers of all kinds are a major part of their children’s lives all over the globe. How do you continue to play a major role in the lives of your children for years to come? Tune in for more.

Breaking Bad News to Your Kids feat. Dr. Sheryl Ziegler

Breaking bad news to children can be a bit daunting. Whether it’s the death of a pet, death of a family member, divorce or any other bad news – children need help to navigate through their emotions. Tune in to this week’s podcast for tips on breaking bad news.

Eating Disorders feat. Dr. Margaret Nagib

Adolescent eating disorders such as anorexia, bulimia, binge eating disorder, and compulsive overeating are concerns every parent hopes to avoid. Tune into this week’s podcast to learn about eating disorders, how to catch the warning signs and what you can to help your kids through it.

The Struggle Is Real: Book

Think of this book as a guide for navigating through your toddler’s, teenager’s or young adult’s emotions and behaviors. You’ll learn how to turn the struggle into a success. You and your children will be all the better for it.

About the panel

Alicia La Hoz

Dr. Alicia La Hoz
Resident Expert

Omar Ramos

Omar Ramos
Host

Family Bridges

Veronica Avila
Host

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