The Hamburger

The Struggle Is Real



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About This Episode

When you’d like your children/adolescents to learn a new habit or skill and they resist it is usually because they don’t know how or are not developmentally able to, don’t have any desire to do so, or get distracted or overwhelmed.  When they resist, ask yourself three questions.  You can remember the questions by thinking about it as a hamburger.

Top bun: Can my child do the task required of him?

Meat: Does my child want to do this task? Why or why not?

Bottom bun: What does my child have to do in order to succeed in this task?

People On This Episode

Alicia La Hoz

Dr. Alicia La Hoz
Resident Expert

Omar Ramos

Omar Ramos

Family Bridges

Veronica Avila

Marvin Del Rios

Marvin Del Rios
Special Guest

This Week's Action

  • Think of a new positive habit you would like your child to learn. For example, eat more vegetables, make their bed every day, say “please” and “thank you” with every request, or any other skill you would like them to develop.
  • Over the next few days, use the Hamburger Method to practice this habit with your child. We’ll check in with you on Friday to see how it’s going.


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