About This Episode
While giving kids tokens like stickers works especially well when they are young, we’d like them to be motivated by more than a shiny star. Plus, it can be a bit taxing and demanding for a parent to consistently be on the alert for rewardable good behavior. When they are motivated on their own accord, it’s less work for you as a parent. One agent that motivates kids (and adults alike) is feeling autonomous. Meaning that they have a sense of agency, that they are recognized, that they are valued, that their choices and opinions matter.
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Dr. Alicia La Hoz
This Week's Action
Step One: Choose a habit you would like your child to work on
Step Two: Practice giving them 2-3 choices when asking them to do these things.
Habit 1: Organize school supplies
- Decorate boxes for school supplies with materials of their choosing
- Give them a couple of choices of times when to work on this (i.e., after school on Wednesday, Saturday morning)
Habit 2: Clean room
- Choose what to clean first; Pick up toys first or put the Legos away first
- Pick a time; they can clean their room on the weekend or in the morning before heading out to school or in the evening after dinner.
Habit 3: Have limited use of technology
- Choose between watching 30 min of favorite show OR 30 minutes of playing on the Tablet
- Play video games for x minutes OR watch favorite movie
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