Talking to Children About Divorce

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Divorce is a stressful and emotional experience for everyone involved. And when children are involved, it can often leave them feeling as though their whole world has been turned upside down. The transition can be a hard and trying, but you can take steps to reduce your child’s pain by making their well-being your top priority. Tune into this week’s episode of The Struggle is Real parenting podcast to learn how your kids can not only successfully navigate through this difficult time, but even emerge from it feeling loved, confident, and strong.

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Alicia La Hoz

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Omar Ramos

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Veronica Avila
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Tammy Daughtry

Tammy Daughtry
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Jay Daughtry

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Winning the Social Media Game: Helping your Child Navigate Social Media Positively

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Winning the Social Media Game: Helping your Child Navigate Social Media Positively

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Social media is here to stay and most parents are not equipped to deal with all the nuisances that an institution as temperamental as this one creates. But there is no need to panic! Being proactive and providing a good example for your children will give you a place to start. Take the time to teach your kids about the benefits and dangers of social media even before they own a smart phone and be courageous in your own use of social media becoming the healthy role model they need to see. After all, “kids have never been very good at listening to their elders but they have never failed to imitate them” (James Baldwin).

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Alicia La Hoz

Dr. Alicia La Hoz
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Omar Ramos

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Veronica Avila
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Laura Tierney

Laura Tierney
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This Week's Action

  • Make your children aware that social media can make them less social. So institute the no phones at the table rule.
  • Set the privacy settings on their phone where “friends” and family must first be accepted before they can view their stuff.
  • Ask your children what their handles are and talk to them about safe handles that do not invite predators.
  • Don’t use the phone while you are driving. Be a good example.

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Raising Future Spouses & Parents

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There’s so much to teach our children while they are still young. Our goal is to help them become independent adults that can fend for themselves when we are no longer there, as well as help them learn the skills necessary to make a good spouse for someone else someday. But as we teach our children how to fold laundry, mow the grass, make rice, and throw out garbage, we should also remember to teach them kindness, generosity and the sacrificial aspect of love. Making the other person a priority is more than checking off lists, it involves denying our own desires for the well-being of the other. As we help our children become successful adults, let’s not forget to spend the majority of our resources giving them an example of what love truly looks like.

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Alicia La Hoz

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Omar Ramos

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Ron Tijerina

Ron Tijerina
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Cathy Tijerina

Cathy Tijerina
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This Week's Action

  • Offer forgiveness to those who have wronged you and become an example of sacrificial love.
  • Stop being a taker; learn how to be a giver and show your children to do the same.
  • Learn to appreciate your differences, no matter how irksome; and teach your children that our differences make us stronger.

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Preparing them for Puppy Love

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The current cultural trend in America is for children to begin dating at earlier and earlier ages. This means that now, perhaps more than ever, it is crucial for parents to begin teaching their children about relationships sooner rather than later. It’s important to take a holistic approach that integrates love, dating, marriage, sex, and everything in between into an ongoing conversation about relationships. Tune in for more.

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Alicia La Hoz

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Omar Ramos

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John Van Epp

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Marriage or Carriage: Talking to your kids about marriage & education

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Marriage or Carriage: Talking to your kids about marriage & education

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The “success sequence,” is the research supported notion that people who get an education, then a job, then get married and, lastly, have children are more likely to experience financial prosperity in the future. It can be hard for parents who have not themselves followed the success sequence to encourage their children to do so. However, it is important for parents not to feel ashamed about their past and instead use their experiences as a tool to instruct their children about an easier way to succeed in life. Parents who have not followed the success sequence should feel a sense of pride in their own resilience while, nonetheless, instilling values in their children that will lead to their future success.

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Alicia La Hoz

Dr. Alicia La Hoz
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Omar Ramos

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Alexandra Solomon

Dr. Alexandra Solomon
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This Week's Action

  • Take some time to reflect on your perceived successes and failures. Ask yourself what you would encourage your children to do differently from you and what you would want them to emulate.
  • Start the conversation with your children about the success sequence. Ask them what their goals in life are and guide them through the best way to go about achieving those goals. You can use the worksheet under the “tool” section of this page as a jumping off point.
  • Don’t be ashamed of your past. Instead, allow the wisdom you’ve gained from your experiences to guide your children into the smoothest path for their lives.

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Identifying Abuse: The Warning Signs

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Domestic violence can be seen everywhere. It doesn’t discriminate against race, gender, religion or economic status. It entails more than just physical violence and includes any type of psychological, emotional, or spiritual maltreatment based on the abuser’s desire to exercise power and control over his or her victim. For this reason, it is important to talk to your children about domestic abuse and healthy relationships.

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Alicia La Hoz

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Omar Ramos

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Robyn Cenizal

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Unpacking the Unmentionables: Talking to your kids about drugs, sex & porn

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Unpacking the Unmentionables: Talking to your kids about drugs, sex & porn

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Talking to your children about difficult subjects like sex, pornography, or drugs can be awkward, but it is necessary nonetheless. Don’t think of these discussions as a once in a lifetime “talk” that you avoid until it’s impossible to continue doing so. Instead, make these discussions regular occurrences that move sequentially throughout your child’s development, deepening their understanding as they mature. Paint a beautiful portrait of the type of life you want your children to live in addition to presenting the negative consequences of addiction and sexual indiscretion. Finally, remember that the best defense against the development of harmful behaviors is a strong familial bond. Create a loving, wholesome environment for your children so that they don’t feel the pull to find fulfillment elsewhere.

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Alicia La Hoz

Dr. Alicia La Hoz
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Omar Ramos

Omar Ramos
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Richard Albertson

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This Week's Actions

  • If you haven’t already, try opening up a dialogue with your children about the “unmentionables.” Make it age appropriate and start small with things like dating and physical affection.
  • To minimize the awkwardness of talking to your children about sex, try talking to your spouse about it first and practicing what you are going to say.
  • Continue having conversations as the occasion dictates. Remember not to have a single, isolated “talk” but rather an ongoing conversation with your child that flows naturally from his or her developmental progress.

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Is it True Love?: Talking to your kids about healthy relationships

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Is it True Love?: Talking to your kids about healthy relationships

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The chemical changes that take place during periods of infatuation can cloud judgement and blur the lines between true commitment and attraction. In a truly committed relationship, both parties desire a future together and are willing to make the sacrifices necessary for that to happen. As opposed to sitting down with children to have a forced, singular “talk,” it’s important for parents to guide their children through the increasingly ambiguous world of romantic relationships on a day to day basis. This is done by being physically and emotionally present in a child’s life and taking advantage of the teachable moments that naturally present themselves throughout the day. Ultimately, modeling committed love in your own relationship speaks volumes to your children about what true love really looks like and helps offset the cultural influence pushing them away from marriage and commitment.

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Alicia La Hoz

Dr. Alicia La Hoz
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Omar Ramos

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Scott Stanley

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This Week's Action

  • Be on the lookout for opportunities to connect with your child and address the topics of love and romance in a way that is appropriate for his or her age group.
  • Instead of trying to force a conversation out of the blue, pay attention to the messages already being relayed in movies, music, conversations with friends, etc., and ask meaningful questions about them.
  • Acquire resources, starting with the tools below, to learn more about healthy relationship practices so that you will be better equipped to discuss these matters with your children when the opportunities arise.

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Guard Your Child’s Heart: Setting boundaries

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What types of fears prevent you from having difficult conversations with your children about values? What can you do to overcome those fears?

When you guard your child’s heart, you set up healthy boundaries in the home that prevent harmful societal “toxins” from entering their lives. Boundaries should also prevent the private parts of their lives from being broadcast before the world. In order to help your child internalize those boundaries and make them a part of his or her own value system, you need to engage your child in sincere, empathetic conversation and be emotionally present when they need you.

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Alicia La Hoz

Dr. Alicia La Hoz
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Omar Ramos

Omar Ramos
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Ana Morante

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Regardless of how well you parent, your child will inevitably cross an established boundary. Reacting to this situation out of a place of empathy and understanding as opposed to fear or anger, can make all the difference in the world. This week, take a moment to recognize when you’re going into “fear mode” and take the necessary steps to calm yourself down before addressing the situation with your child.  Here are a few things you can try:

  • Take a deep breath; notice your surroundings, your breathing, and the sensations going on around you.
  • Write down what you’re feeling in a journal
  • Take time to pray
  • Go for a run or engage in some other kind of physical activity
  • Listen to relaxing music or an interesting podcast
  • Talk to a trusted friend or loved one
  • Take a warm bath
  • Read a book

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Raising the Brainy Child

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Are you a competitive parent? You may be using your children’s results to boost your parental ego and it’s doing more harm than good. Tune in for insights on how to balance your ambition for your child to do well with their own desires and talents.

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Alicia La Hoz

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